The Plea

 This is a story about sibling rivalry and ending the cycle of abuse. Without a group discussion with guidelines and a process of cooperation amongst contracted and committed individuals, it will have to stand as one lasting perspective left to at person’s willingness to self-process.  The process of family abuse and its trauma can be like that, but it doesn't have to be....

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https://gofund.me/4335306d

Many of you know Barb. She has traveled the country, trained hundreds of people in diversity and emotional intelligence all in an attempt to relieve her pain, physical and emotional, through the process of unconditional love and acceptance and the cathartic release of her past.

She has done her work, but the cost has been great and stepping away from the cycle of family abuse is getting harder and harder.

In many experiential trainings, during integration, they would reference a story about the Blue Crabs in a Bucket:

A man on a pier is crab fishing. The crabs that he caught are sitting in a steel bucket. The bucket is uncovered. Another man walks up, watches what's going on and ask him why the bucket is uncovered. Won't the crabs escape?  The fisherman replies that if he watches for a while he will see one crab try to escape and the other crabs pull it back into the bucket before it can get out.

It took us many years for Barb to escape the bucket, but the opportunity to get hooked back in is always a risk when dealing with those around you who are unconscious. When we saw all the dynamics of the past coming back to roost,  we realized that we had a choice to break this cycle of abuse once and for all within our immediate family. 

We recognize that we cannot change the overall family dynamic. If they don't see the water that they're swimming in, then there's not a lot we can do except go into protect mode.

At this point Barb is on the edge. Beyond everything else she's gone through including five orthopedic surgeries in the past six years, continuous pain management, and the need to heal she is overwhelmed by the impact of the lack of support from her mother due to her decline in capacity, and the issues of a wounded sibling dynamic that doesn’t see what they have done. 

Barb needs your support.

If significant support comes in it will be used for her healing up to and including:

• Travel to see her mother wherever she's at for as long as it takes, whenever she can bear it.
• Travel to see her community in Maryland to seek holistic medical advice and somatic touch healing from her extended family there.
• Travel to see her mentor(s) and extended family around the country and retreat for the sake of her continued well-being.
• Continue to reach out to extended family, blood or non-blood relatives, and friends on what her friends have been calling the “Thelma and Louise” tour.
• If a miracle happens, she would get off of disability and commit to a long-term mission around these issues.

More important than money however, right now Barb needs your support. If you have affinity for this story, send a small donation and, most importantly, a note of support. If you know her and she has had an impact on you in a positive way through her training and team support, tell her how she has helped you.

While the money would certainly help her to get to those places where she can heal, we would really like to see a thousand of her friends and contacts send her support.  

She needs it now.

https://gofund.me/4335306d